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The Eshel Tree: Rooted in Welcome
Keep The Word Close
Finding My Way Back to Shul
Like Clay in the Potter’s Hands
A New School Year, An Old Question: Do I Belong?
When We Failed to Make Space
Who are the Leaders for Us and Our Families
If You Build It, They Will Come
Love and Liberation this Tu B’Av
You’ve Got to Have Faith
The God Who Hates Lies and the People Who Blame the Victim
4 Questions to Ask Your Photographer Before Your Queer Orthodox Wedding
YES to our traditions, AND to our full identities
Conformity is a Closet
A Student too Eager
Census and Consensus
Saying Yes, AND
Why Should We Be Excluded?
One Day at a Time
The Choice to be Visible
Thinking About the Eshel Parent Retreat?
A Seat at the Table for Everyone
Rest, Reflection, Renewal
Out in Shushan
If You Will It
New Queer Resolutions
Lighting Up the Darkness
What’s in a Strategic Plan?
Giving Thanks
On Being a Trans Ally
Hospitality as a Central Pillar
We’re Here, We’re Queer, We’re Making History
A Sacred Pause
Enjoying the Fruits of Our Labor
Lessons from Yonah
Finding My Voice
We Don’t Grieve Alone
Three Weddings, One Marriage
The Rainbow of Belonging
The True Meaning of Pride
10 Years of Welcoming Shuls
Lightening the Load
Reading A Perfect Torah
The Art of Adapting
Visibility as Healing
Putting the Matza Back Together
Sowing a Brighter Future
Reimagining “V’nahafoch Hu”: The Joy of Finding Balance
How to Be an Ally Right Now
Building the Community We Need
New Year, New Goals
Learning to Make an Impact
Holding On to Our Dreams
Every year, I look forward to celebrating Hannukah. In the darkest of times, the lights of the Hanukkiah and the songs of the holiday have always lifted me up and inspired me to renew my faith and hope in our people and in Hashem. This year, I have needed this light and renewal more than ever. As the parshiyot shift to the journey of Yoseph the dreamer, one of my favorite stories of the Torah, during Hanukkah, I’m noticing the parallels between the Maccabim hiding and standing up for themselves, and Yoseph’s journey into and out of a pit and a jail cell for believing in his dreams.
Yoseph knew he was born to be someone different than everyone else around him. He dreamed of things he didn’t quite understand, but nonetheless believed in. He was ostracized and isolated by his own family for sharing his dreams, only to go on to serve a greater purpose in bringing his family down to Egypt and saving them from famine. The Maccabim as well, forced to hide and run, were ultimately on the path that led them back to the restored Beit Hamikdash
Grief and Gratitude: Marking Trans Day of Remembrance
Beyond the Shabbos table: LGBTQ+ allyship as a communal responsibility
Elul and the Interpersonal
What’s Love Got To Do With It?
Failure and Resilience
How Change Happens
A Home to Come Back To
Change is in the Air
Two weeks later, I am still on a high from our Celebration of Eshel. It was an incredible, star-studded night. I’m so grateful that Modi, Leo Veiga, Talia Reese, and Rabbi Gavriel Bellino were able to be on stage with me, our amazing volunteers and staff, and our honorees to help celebrate Eshel’s incredible journey over the past 13 years. What started out as a tiny dream to bring frum LGBTQ+ Jews together once a year has blossomed into something larger than any of us could have imagined.
Unity and Diversity at Sinai
Reflection on Pride
What Eshel Means to Me
Creating Communities Where There Are None
Seeing Ourselves in Torah
The Blessings of Totality
The Meaning of Retreat
A Mifgash that Matters
The night before I left for Israel, I talked to a friend about what he should do: his father, who lives on the other side of the continent, had just gotten a cancer diagnosis. I remembered back to when my parents had been sick and I had been far away. “Go be with him. He needs you and you need to be near him. You’ll feel better sitting by his side instead of sitting here, wondering how he’s doing. You’ll see with your own eyes
Celebrating Purim as Coming Out Day
Every Neshama has a Place at Shul
Spotlight on Social Events
Crafting Our Own Self-Care Practice
Leaping Into a New Month
Another new month! Last month, we explored journaling as a form of reflection. This month, as we enter Adar Aleph and February (a double leap year), let’s explore journaling as a form of self inquiry. Leap years are the way our calendar resets so that we don’t drift too far away from the cycles of the natural world. This month, let’s take a moment to investigate the ways we may have lost our rhythm or feel off-kilter, and how we can return to equilibrium. Whether the changing seasons, personal struggles, or global events are contributing to feelings of unsteadiness, we can utilize self inquiry, journaling, and mindfulness to manage our reactions.
I encourage you to set aside some time to investigate whatever feelings you’re experiencing now, and try to identify patterns of similar feelings in the past. That knowledge of self can help you face the future.
The Story Behind the Warmline
Eshel and the Garden of Eden
Ritual and Retreat
A Time for Growth and Renewal
Your Existence is Activism
Making Space: Being LGBTQ+ and Jewish in a Christmas-Centered World
Remembering as a Transformative Act
Why We Need the LGBTQ+ Retreat
Supporting LGBTQ+ Jewish College Students in Crisis
From Suriname to Amsterdam with Jerusalem In Between
Caring for Your Mental Health During a Crisis
Introducing Our New York Program Manager!
Giving a Face to Difficult Texts
First Day of School Jitters
Cultivating an Accepting Home
Oceans and Rivers
Finding A Home for the Yamim Noraim
Celebrating Our New Board Members: Strengthening Our Path to Growth and Inclusion
Tu B’av: A Holiday of Love and Liberation
The Failure of Too Much Humility
The Baal Shem Tov and Compassionate Awareness
Curiosity Over Contempt
“Two Jews, three opinions.” I was raised to appreciate multiplicity within our tradition. Through my study of Gemara, I learned to wrestle with texts, to ask lots of questions, and to challenge initial assumptions. I was taught the value of makhloket leshem shamayim, conflict in the name of heaven. Basically, I was encouraged to be curious.
So when I came out as transgender and faced some people in the Orthodox world saying that was “against the Torah,” I was confused, to say the least. Where was the complexity and nuance that other aspects of Jewish life are afforded?
It’s Not About Us vs. Them
When It Comes to a Future for LGBTQ+ Jews, Seeing is Believing
Everything is Above Ground Now
Why I Celebrate Pride
Pride Month, to me, is an occasion to celebrate visibility. It provides an opportunity for a community that can sometimes operate under the radar to proudly showcase our unity.
Inside Our Families, Outside in Our Orthodox Community
Discussing Jewish LGBTQ+ Pride with the World’s First Openly Gay Orthodox Rabbi
Inside Out by R. Steve Greenberg
Just Like Us study shows disproportionate LGBT+ school struggles
2 JTA Articles on an Orthodox Jewish Framework for Relationships
The Only Unnatural Way to Be Is Alone
Kept At A Distance
Changing Not Changing by Joy Ladin – Video
Model Yseult Polfliet Has Finally Found Her Jewish Story
Eshel Newsletter – March 20, 2020
Coronavirus – by Nathan Lopes Cardozo
How Sephardic Mizrahi Q Network Was Born
Bridging the Divides, Fostering Inclusivity: Panel Discussion with Miryam Kabakov
R. Steve Greenberg’s Speech at the We, Too, Are YU March
Contemporary Orthodox Rabbis Speak
Rav Benny Lau “The Religious Community and Homosexuality”
Shavuot and the Wellbeing of LGBTQ+ Youth
The Day My Rainbow Got Kicked Out of Shul
Between Acharei-Mot and Kedoshim
INSIDE – OUT: Purim as a Jewish Coming-Out Day
My Orthodox Rabbi Father Taught Me To Love LGBT People
Homosexuality and the Human Condition
Why Orthodox synagogues should welcome gay couples
Coming Out Orthodox
What is Truly Great About America: From Sea to Shining Sea
The biggest challenge to ’emunah’ of our time
Some Rabbis Fail, Others Rise Above
Why I Still Need Eshel
Support Rabbi Bodner and Rabbi Bellino
Barry Youngerman, Z”L, Biography and Eulogy
Merchav Batuach off and running with a great start!
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