In case of emergency
If you are considering taking your life, reach out for help:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
More than 150 crisis centers currently participate in the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline network. Each center receives calls from designated areas of the country, creating a nationwide coverage area. Calls to 1-800-273-TALK are routed to the closest available crisis center.
The Trevor Project
The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning youth. It operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth.
Trevor Helpline: 1-866-488-7386
Crisis Text Line
Text ‘HOME’ to 741741 from anywhere in the US, any time, about any type of crisis. Visit www.crisistextline.org for more information.
Suicide Prevention Line
1-800-784-2433 OR 1 -800-273-8255
Trans Life Line:
Dedicated to the wellbeing of trans people.
Resources for students:
Suicide Prevention, Awareness, and Support For a full list of suicide hotlines in the and out of the United States, click here.
Eshel Local Support Groups
Do you think you might be lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, gender non-conforming, or queer? Do you have questions about sexual orientation or gender identity? Are you thinking about “coming out”? Are you struggling to stay in your community? Are you unsure how to approach your rabbi about these topics? Do you want to meet other people like you?
Eshel offers several sources of support for LGBTQ+ Orthodox Jews, their families and their communities. You may sign up here.
Eshel Chapters in Cities across the US and Canada
Baltimore/DC (parents, LGBTQ)
Chicago (parents, LGBTQ)
North New Jersey
National Phone-In Groups
Orthodox Parents of LGBTQ people
Orthodox Parents with Children of Trans Experience
Not in One of These Cities?
Check out our LGBTQ+ and Parent Phone-in groups. You may sign up here.
The Eshel family is big and sometimes there are meetings in other cities for socializing and support. Check back to our events page or subscribe to our newsletter.
Want to find a Welcoming Shul? Need a place to go for Shabbat or a holiday? Just want to talk to someone? Please let us know by writing to firstname.lastname@example.org.
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If you are in the New York area, Eshel staff are available to support you with an in-person meeting, resources and referrals. Contact firstname.lastname@example.org to schedule a meeting.
Jewish LGBTQ+ Organizations
LGBTQ Jewish Organizations in North America
JQY is a social/support group made up of frum/formerly frum* gay, bi, trans and lesbian Jews ages 17-30. They run a drop-in center for teens, meet for informal social get togethers and run anonymous online discussion groups. JQY is based in New York based, with members all over the world. Their Yeshiva Inclusion Project helps people find out whether an Israel Program is appropriate for them.
Keshet is a grassroots organization dedicated to creating a fully inclusive Jewish community for GLBT people.
A support group for Jewish LBTQ women facing questions of sexuality, gender, and religion. Each meeting is facilitated by Chani Getter, and includes sharing and discussion. Confidentiality, support, and compassionate listening are central values. Ma’agal meets the first Tuesday of every month in Manhattan
A Yiddish and English phone support hotline for anyone raised Orthodox, regardless of current religious observance. We speak Yiddish, and we understand the nuance of being raised in an Orthodox community.
LGBTQ Jewish Organizations in Israel
A Wider Bridge
A Wider Bridge seeks to inspire Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) Jews to deepen their Jewish identity through connection with Israel and to develop stronger connections between the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) communities in Israel and North America.
Bat-kol – Religious Lesbian Organization was founded to allow women to fulfill both their religious and lesbian identity; to make it possible for women to live in loving relationships, to raise children without deception, but nevertheless stay committed to their religion. This organization is located in Israel.
Havruta offers social and support networks for religious LGBT people in Israel. Beyond being a safe haven, Havruta actively works to inform and educate the religious public about LGBT issues in their communities.
The Hod website is the first independent site for religious homosexual Jews, providing a platform for open-minded discussion in order to facilitate understanding about being gay and Orthodox.
Jerusalem Open House
The Jerusalem Open House for Pride and Tolerance (JOH) is a leading organization of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) people and their allies in the heart of Jerusalem. As a grassroots, activist community center, JOH provides direct services to all LGBTQ individuals in Jerusalem and its surrounding communities, while working to secure LGBTQ rights in Israeli society at large.
Eshel Speakers Bureau
Eshel Speakers – Training, Bureau, and Educational Initiatives
Eshel runs a number of educational initiatives, including training and empowerment of speakers and lay teachers in the Orthodox community. Eshel’s Speakers Bureau (ESB) is designed to provide a forum for Orthodox people to share their stories in a non confrontational manner. The trainings are conducted yearly in order to provide young Orthodox LGBTQ+ Jews and allies with a better understanding of story sharing as a means of movement from within the frum community. Speakers will be sent to various Orthodox communities to tell their stories in ways that do not threaten, but instead motivate people to make a real difference.
We have adapted the work of Marshall Ganz of Harvard University to create the Eshel Speakers Bureau Public Narrative Workshop Guide which serves as a foundation for all our trainings. Professor Ganz’s work on public narrative is particularly suited to sharing our stories and experiences as ways to build understanding of the pastoral and emotional issues faced by LGBT Orthodox Jews.
Orthodox synagogues, Hillels, JCCs, and other organizations can book Eshel speakers to talk about topics including:
- Coming out in an Orthodox environment
- Maintaining a Halachik lifestyle while being LGBT
- Bullying and homophobia in educational settings
- Maintaining relationships with family
Each institution will have the opportunity to work with Eshel to customize a panel for its specific needs.
If you’d like to find out about the next Eshel Speaker Bureau Training, contact Rabbi Steve Greenberg at: Steve@eshelonline.org
Eshel Support for Parents
Has your child just “come out” to you as LGBTQ+? Consider reading this first.
Are you struggling to accept your child’s gender or sexual identity?
Do you want to make your community a safer place for your LGBTQ+ child?
Have you thought about talking to your Rabbi about your LGBTQ+ child but don’t know how?
Eshel offers several sources of support for Orthodox parents of LGBTQ+ children.
Eshel’s Annual National Parent Retreat, located on the East Coast, brings Orthodox parents of LGBTQ children from around the country together for a shabbat of community, learning, and support.
Eshel runs a monthly call-in Parent Group to offer support to the Orthodox parents of LGBTQ children. Join us the first Wednesday of every month at 8pm CT/9pm EST. Email email@example.com for a brief intake and the call-in number. or sign up here.
Parent Mentoring Program
Would you like to speak to another parent one on one? We have a group of trained parent mentors who we can match you with.
For Shuls, Communities, & Allies
Be an Ally to LGBTQ+ Jews
When Someone Comes Out to You
“Coming out” is when a person tells someone else that he or she is gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender. Someone who is coming out feels close enough to you and trusts you enough to be honest and risk losing you as a friend or rabbi. If a congregant or student, child or friend tells you they are lesbian, gay, bisexual , or transgender, they may look to you, their teacher or religious leader, for guidance. They are taking a huge step, have and are most likely concerned about losing you, their community, family and friends.
How To Offer Support
Here are some suggestions that you may wish to consider:
- Thank them for having the courage to tell you. Choosing to tell you indicates that they most likely respect and trust you and want to include you in their life.
- It’s okay if you feel uncomfortable or upset. You can say that you may need some time to feel comfortable but this does not mean that you are no longer his or her rabbi, teacher, friend, etc.
- Respect their confidentiality. It might take a while until he or she is ready to tell others. This should be done on their time schedule.
- The main fear for people coming out is that their friends and family will reject them. So, tell them that you still care for him or her. Be the friend, father, rabbi, sister, teacher (etc.) you have always been. Make it clear that you will not reject them, forbid them from coming to shul, school or home.
- Do not say, “Are you sure?” When people come out to you, it most likely means that they have gone over this question thousands of times in their own mind, and they are sure!
- If the person is transgender, try to support him or her by using the name and pronoun (“he,” “she,” or “ze”) they prefer. If they want a particular name and pronoun to be used by others, try to help other people to respect their desired name and pronoun.
- Don’t shy away from bringing up issues around sexual orientation or gender identity, but remember that you can still talk about the topics you always talked about, whether these are music, movies, politics, or other subjects.
- If the person is coming out to you because they need advice or support, try to learn about organizations and publications – either LGBTQ+ and/or Jewish – that would be most supportive and helpful to your friend. It might be important for your friend to know that such support exists. For a list of resources, see the LGBTQ+ section above.
- Don’t assume this person is attracted to you. It is a myth that gay, lesbian, and bisexual people are attracted to everyone who is of the same sex.
- Don’t assume that your friend who is transgender will automatically be attracted to the same sex as the gender with which your friend identifies. For example, a friend who was raised as a girl but who identifies as a boy may be attracted to boys, girls, or both and may identify as gay, straight, or bisexual.
- It’s never too late. If someone has come out to you before and you feel badly about how you handled it, you can always go back and let them know you would like to understand their situation and try again.
Adapted for Eshel (www.eshelonline.org) from the Youth Service Bureau of Wellington, Ottawa.
Get involved with Merchav Batuach, a Safe Space training seminar for Jewish campus leaders!
Meet & engage with fellow students and learn to build a safe and sensitive network for your LGBTQ+ peers within an Orthodox environment.
Complete language sensitivity training.
Become a certified Merchav Batuach representative on your campus.
To learn more, email firstname.lastname@example.org
We invite rabbis, congregational and community leaders, LGBTQ+ people, their families and friends to take part in creating welcoming Orthodox congregations.
Help your community provide a safe and welcoming environment for LGBTQ+ people. If you think you are ready to create a welcoming community, here are some questions to help assess your or your community’s readiness:
- Are you open to learning about the lives of the LGBTQ+ members of your community?
- Do you want families with LGBTQ+ members to be able to share information about them without fear of discrimination or shame when they share this information?
Preventing hate and discrimination:
- Are you ready to stand publicly against ignorant, homophobic, or hateful comments made by community members or leaders in your community? Are you ready to approach them privately?
- Are you ready to take a stand publicly against bullying in communities and schools that targets nonconforming gender expression and sexual orientation?
Spiritual and communal needs:
- Is your shul ready to serve the religious and communal needs of its LGBTQ+ members and families by providing an open and non-discriminatory environment for them?
- While we do not expect Orthodox rabbis to perform same-sex weddings, will you and your rabbi help LGBTQ+ community members and their families celebrate milestones in their lives?
- While poskim continue to explore possible responses to the challenges faced by transgender people, will you remain personally respectful and engaged on a human level to the challenges that trans people and their families face?
If you answered yes to some of these questions, then you may be ready to make your synagogue more welcoming to LGBTQ+ people but you may not know how to proceed. Read below for some action steps you can take.
Here are some actions to take to make your community an accepting environment for LGBTQ+ members:
- Treat a LGBTQ+ person with the same regard and dignity you would any other community member.
- Do not make hateful, ignorant or homophobic remarks from the bima, around the shabbos table or anywhere else.
- Avoid use of term “homosexual lifestyle.” LGBTQ+ people do not have a particular lifestyle that is different from anyone else.
- Be sensitive about offering to create a shidduch (match) for someone unless you know with certainty that they are interested in meeting someone of the opposite sex.
- Acknowledge the partner of an LGBTQ+ person as you would anyone else’s partner: invite them to your simcha; ask about their welfare; express concern if they are facing some difficulty.
- If you are a congregant in a synagogue where a rabbi demonstrates insensitivity or misunderstanding of LGBTQ+ people, tell him this is hurtful to you. These kinds of statements publicly humiliate LGBTQ+ people and their families.
- Create a “household” membership, instead of a “family” membership.
- Celebrate the milestones of LGBTQ+ people and their family members just as you would any other person in your community.
- Familiarize yourself with resources that are appropriate for LGBTQ+ Jews, their rabbis or family members, including those listed on this page.
- Encourage your shul to have an inclusion statement for LGBTQ+ people on its website.
Eshel has drafted the principles below to help allies make their Orthodox synagogues and communities become more inclusive of LGBTQ+ people. A welcoming shul accepts certain principles that will bind the rabbi, LGBTQ+ congregants, and the community as a whole together in a covenant of inclusion. We welcome you to use these principles as a guide in creating a more LGBTQ+ inclusive Orthodox community.
1. All human beings are created in the image of God and deserve to be treated with dignity and respect (kavod haberiyot). Every Jew is obligated to fulfill the entire range of mitzvot between person and person in relation to those who are gay, bisexual, lesbian or transgender. Embarrassing, harassing or demeaning someone with a homosexual orientation or same-sex attraction is a violation of Torah prohibitions that embody the deepest values of Judaism. The question of whether sexual orientation is primarily genetic or environmentally generated is irrelevant to our obligation to treat human beings with dignity and respect.
2. Whatever the origin or cause of homosexual orientation, the psychiatric community does not feel that orientation can be changed with therapy. Since most mental health professionals feel that these therapies are either ineffective or potentially damaging psychologically for many patients, it is not halakhically acceptable to demand that LGBTQ+ people attempt to change their sexual orientation. Consequently, we affirm the religious right of LGBTQ+ people to reject therapeutic approaches they reasonably see as useless or dangerous. The Rabbinic Council of America has affirmed that therapy of any type “be performed only by licensed, trained practitioners and…that no individual should be coerced to participate in a therapeutic course with which he or she is acutely uncomfortable.”
3. LGBTQ+ Jews who live in the Orthodox community confront serious emotional, communal and psychological challenges that cause them and their families great pain and suffering. For example, homosexual orientation may greatly increase the risk of suicide among teenagers in our community. Rabbis and communities need to be sensitive and empathetic to that reality. Rabbis and mental health professionals must provide responsible and ethical assistance to congregants and clients dealing with those human challenges and should communicate their openness to providing respectful pastoral counseling to LGBTQ+ individuals.
4. Jews struggling to live in accordance with halakhic values need and deserve support. The demand that LGBTQ+ people remain closeted is an unacceptable burden that has socially and psychologically destructive consequences. Nonetheless, the process of coming out is one that should not be forced upon anyone, and it is certainly wrong to “out” an LGBTQ+ member of the community. Clearly we should leave up to an individual the timing and context of a decision to share their sexual orientation with family, friends and community. We support the honesty and grasp the relief of coming out for the gay members of our community, but leave up to them the timing and context of their decision to share their sexual orientation with family, friends and community.
5. LGBTQ+ Jews should be welcomed as full members of the synagogue and school community. They should participate and count ritually, be eligible for ritual synagogue honors, and generally be treated in the same fashion and under the same halakhic and hashkafic framework as any other member of their synagogue. Conversely, they must accept and fulfill all the responsibilities of such membership, including those generated by communal norms or broad Jewish principles that go beyond formal halakha.
6. At present, an often-recommended halakhic “solution” for LGBTQ+ Orthodox Jews is life-long celibacy. Clearly, this is a demand that can be followed by very few individuals, whether hetero- or homosexual. Since, under these circumstances, the vast majority of young LGBTQ+ Orthodox Jews will either leave Orthodoxy or find same sex companionship and endeavor to remain in this community, the Orthodox world is challenged with finding a way within halakhic parameters to welcome these Jews as well as their partners and children.
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Drop us an email and we will help you tailor a plan appropriate for the specific needs of your community.
Orthodox Allies Roundtable
Do you have an Orthodox LGBTQ+ person in your life? Do you know that they need your support? Then you are potential ally to them. And chances are, they need you to be their ally.
And sign up for the Orthodox Allies Roundtable to get involved in being an ally to LGBTQ+ Jews in your community!
The Orthodox Allies Roundtable (OAR) organizes allies locally, and connects them to each other to determine what they—collectively and separately—can do to make a difference in LGBTQ+ inclusion. OAR offers allies a range of actions to participate in, among which are public writing efforts, education efforts such as bringing Eshel speakers to their local Orthodox synagogue or JCC, and direct one-on-one conversations to move their communities toward meaningful, pragmatic policy change.
While lay folks in traditional communities may not want do not to tell their rabbis how to determine halakhic norms, it is legitimate for them to share their concerns for people. Family and friends can let the community leadership know that the well-being of LGBTQ+ people matters to them. They can urge their rabbis, educators, and lay leaders to choose pragmatic policies that are fully responsible to the LGBTQ+ people in their institutions.
Help make inclusive Orthodox communities a reality by signing up to join OAR!
To sing up, email us at: email@example.com
Rabbinic Advisory Board
Do you need advice from an Orthodox religious leader about an LGBTQ+ issue? Eshel can put you in touch with its Rabbinic Advisory Board.
Email us at: firstname.lastname@example.org
Texts and Online Resources
Judaism and Homosexuality: An Authentic Orthodox View by Rabbi Chaim Rapoport
Keep Your Wives Away from Them: Orthodox Women, Unorthodox Desires Edited by Miryam Kabakov
Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition by Rabbi Steven Greenberg
Balancing on the Mechitza: Transgender in Jewish Community by Noach Dzmura
It’s Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends by Robie H. Harris, for ages 4+
It’s So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families by Robie H. Harris, for ages 7+
It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health by Robie H. Harris, for ages 10+
DEVOUT is a 37-minute documentary film that follows the lives of seven women in New York and New Jersey who are trying to reconcile their alternative sexuality with their commitment to Orthodox Judaism. Their faith has always condemned homosexuality in the harshest terms. Find out how Chani, Pam, Elissa, Hayley, Lina and “Miriam” have dealt with being “unacceptable” while still remaining devoted to their strict faith and community.
Trembling Before G-d
Landmark film about gay Orthodox Jews. Site features curriculum and discussion guide. (2001)
Keep Not Silent
Keep Not Silent (Hebrew: את שאהבה נפשי Et Sheaava Nafshi) is a 2004 documentary film by Israeli director Ilil Alexander about three lesbians in Jerusalem. It documents the journey of some of the individuals in the first “Orthodyke” group in Jerusalem.
Ha-Sodot (The Secrets)
An Israeli woman (Ania Bukstein) from a strict religious household falls in love with her classmate (Michal Shtamler) at a women’s seminary. This 2007 film tells the story of forbidden love and learning between two women.
Mom and Dad, I Have Something to Tell You
“Mom and Dad: I Have Something to Tell You” is a documentary film (2010) about the journey parents whose children tell them they are gay are forced to take. Their life changes in a second and a challenging and slow journey, for all the family, begins, taking them from denial to understanding, from anger to the need to be there for him or her, from shame to acceptance.
V’Ahavta (And Thou Shalt Love)
A 2008 Israeli short about Ohad, a young orthodox Jew, who tries to extinguish his homosexual tendencies. But when his boyfriend returns from the army, he finds he can no longer evade his feelings and questions within himself, and between himself and God.
Blogs and Online Resources
A Gay Orthodox Jew
A thoughtful chronicle of reconciling Jewish and gay identities.
And If Not Now, When?
Articulating a vision for gay-positive observant Judaism.
No Mom, This is Not Just a Phase
Stories and Thoughts of a Gay, Orthodox Jew
The Chalamti Blog
Discourses from the life of a gay Orthodox Jew, written by a young man. (“Chalamti” translates as “I dreamed” in Hebrew.)
Frum Gay Girl
A formerly married, chassidic woman with a large family, staying within the Orthodox community and talking about what that’s like for her family, her children, and herself.
This website includes a calendar of Queer Jewish events, a blog, and a shop.
Gotta Give ‘Em Hope
Chaim Levin grew up Lubavitch Hasidic Orthodox in Crown Heights, Brooklyn New York and was often bullied as a kid. After being thrown out of yeshiva after admitting his attraction to men, undergoing “reparative therapy,” and attempting suicide, he finally emerged a proud gay Jewish man. These are his musings.
It’s Like Disapproving of Rain
A gay woman writes about encountering — and countering — homophobia at the Shabbos table, along with her journey to embrace herself, and her desire to have a nice, traditional Jewish family…with another nice Jewish girl by her side.
A list for Gay Jewish men who are Orthodox. It was created to have a place where Orthodox Gay Jewish men (including those who are “Frum From Birth,” “Ba’al Tshuvah,” Modern Orthodox, Datti Le’umi, Haredi, Hardali, etc.) can meet or talk with others who are currently frum (Orthodox).
Orthodox, Gay and Married Jew
The unique perspective of a gay Orthodox man, formerly married to a woman, trying to navigate his complicated identity amidst his family and community.
Jewish Pink Elephant
Ideas of an American Syrian Orthodox Gay Jew by Rich Dweck. Rich provides a blend of resources dealing with Judaism and Homosexuality, along with important modern Jewish issues.
Tirtzah: A Community of Frum Queer Women
Tirtzah is a community of Frum Queer women who gather online and in person to celebrate and study Judaism, and to support one another in living integrated religious lives. Tirtzah has an e-mail list, a blog, and events in the New York and New Jersey area.
Writings by Allies
Orthodox Mom of Gay Kid
A proud, Orthodox Mom talks about her teenage son coming out, having a gay child in the Modern Orthodox community, and LGBTQ issues in the Orthodox community at large.
Another Jewish Kid With Gay Parents
Started by a teenager living in a modern orthodox community with a married lesbian mom and a straight dad who created the site with the hope that teenagers with any variation of the gay parent/religious upbringing combination would find it and connect.
Started by an Orthodox parent, Kirtzono is an anonymous forum for participants to share thoughts, stories and new glosses on Jewish texts and holidays.
A listserv for GLBT Jews who are or have been Orthodox, or attended Yeshivas or Hebrew Day Schools.
Tirtzah: A Community of Frum Queer Women
Tirtzah is a community of Frum Queer women who gather online and in person to celebrate and study Judaism, and to support one another in living integrated religious lives. Tirtzah has an e-mail list, a blog, and events in the New York and New Jersey area.
Wrestling with God
A collection of over 160 classical Jewish texts curated by Rabbi Steve Greenberg. These are the primary source texts Rabbi Greenberg explored in depth in his groundbreaking book, Wrestling with God & Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition. Here you can create customizable text-study and source sheets using the Wrestling with God texts for use in classrooms, synagogues, and other educational venues.
Bibliography of Contemporary Orthodox Responses to Homosexuality
by the Academy for Torah Initiatives and Directions
Temicha is an online support group for Orthodox Jewish parents of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender individuals.
Discovering your spouse isn’t straight- real support at an unreal time
Books for Adults
I Promised Not to Tell: Raising a transgender child by Cheryl Evans
Books for Children
Gracefully Grayson by Ami Polonsky
Lily and Dunkin by Donna Gephart
Magical Princess Harriet: Chessed, World of Compassion by Leiah Moser
Beast by Brie Spangler
I Am Jazz by Jessica Herthel
The Other Boy by M. G. Hennessey
Transgender Orthodox Jews
Rabbi Dr. Zev Farber provides an analysis of the challenges–both halakhic and social–faced by transgender individuals in the Orthodox Jewish world, with some suggested resolutions.
The Transgender Teen’s Survival Guide
A blog created for humans/beings of all ages who have questions concerning their gender identity. This blog is designed to be a safe and supportive space where you are able to share your stories and concerns, as well as receive help and resources!
The “Tzitz Eliezer” Responsa
Beth Orens summarizes the responsa of the “Tzitz Eliezer” on the halachic status of transsexual people.
A place for male-to-female and female-to-male transsexuals who are Orthodox Jews to meet and discuss pertinent issues. The list is also open to transsexuals who are no longer Orthodox as long as they retain respectful and positive views of Orthodox Judaism.
The Mount Sinai Health System’s Center for Transgender Medicine and Surgery provides compassionate and comprehensive health care services for the transgender community. A team of professionals within the Mount Sinai Health System help patients in their journey from initial assessment and screening through hormonal therapy, surgical procedures, and post-transition care.
This is the story of a birl. And the mother of a birl. Who live in a Jewish modern orthodox community. Together we are navigating the challenges of being and raising a gender non conforming child in an orthodox community.
Substance use disorders have a greater effect on LGBTQ+ people than on the heterosexual population. The LGBTQ+ community must overcome several obstacles, including being denied substance abuse treatment because of their sexual identity. However, through the proper understanding and accommodation of LGBTQ+ care principles, substance abuse treatment can be successful.
If you are like most of our lesbian, gay, bisexual and queer clients, you want therapy for the same reasons non-gay people seek it: personal or family issues unrelated to your sexuality. IPG psychotherapists won’t blame your sexuality as the cause of your problems. This is true because the majority of our therapists are part of the LGBTQ community themselves, and they do have an extra edge – knowledge and experience that can only be gained by living it.