Our Team – Old


Miryam Kabakov
Executive Director

Miryam Kabakov is the Executive Director and ​a ​founding board member of Eshel, an organization that supports and advocates for LGBTQ Orthodox individuals and their families.   Prior to being a leader at Eshel, Kabakov was the New York and National Program Director of AVODAH: The Jewish Service Corps, Director of LGBT programming at the JCC Manhattan, Social Worker at West Side Federation for Senior and Supportive Housing, and was the first social worker at Footsteps.  Miryam attended the Ramaz Upper School, Stern College for Women, received her Master’s Degree in social work from the Wurzweiler School of Social Work.  She also received certification in fundraising program from the University of St. Thomas, in program evaluation at the University of Washington, and from the Institute for Informal Jewish Education at Brandeis University.  She founded the New York Orthodykes, a support group for lesbian, bisexual and transgender Orthodox women, and is the editor of Keep Your Wives Away From Them: Orthodox Women, Unorthodox Desires (North Atlantic Books, May 2010), a collection of writings about the challenges and joys of LGBT Orthodox Jews and winner of the Golden Crown Literary Award.



Rabbi Steven Greenberg
Founding Director

Rabbi Steven Greenberg  is the founding director of Eshel and works on special projects and development.  He is also a faculty member of the Shalom Hartman Institute of North America. He is the author of the groundbreaking book, Wrestling with God & Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition (University of Wisconsin Press, 2004), which won the Koret Book Award for Philosophy and Thought. He lives with his partner Steven Goldstein and his daughter Amalia in Boston. Contact Steve at Steve@eshelonline.org.




Chavie Weisberger
Special Programs

Chavie Weisberger grew up in a Chassidic community in Monsey, NY. She is a queer single mother of 3 delightful children. A member of the Eshel community since 2012, Chavie runs groups and assists with special projects. She concurrently serves as Community Engagement Associate at Footsteps – a non-profit where she works towards building a network of those who have made the transition out of ultra-Orthodoxy and are looking to be connected with the other like-minded individuals. Contact Chavie at chavie@eshelonline.org.


Dr. Saundra Sterling Epstein
Welcoming Shuls Project Director

Dr. Saundra Sterling Epstein (Sunnie) is a well known Jewish educator who has worked in many venues and around many topics of Jewish Learning as well as education in general. Within that work, Sunnie has always been an advocate for inclusion of all members of our Jewish community, including our LGBT members, and has taught extensively about that inclusion from a Jewish text informed perspective. Sunnie and her husband Ken are also the parents of four amazing children, two of whom happen to be gay. Sunnie worked with her daughter Rachie and her “Rav Steve” Greenberg to help create a beautiful ceremony to join Rachie and Liz together as life partners this past June.


BerinaBerina Altshuler
Program Assistant

A native of Minnesota, Berina graduated from McGill University in 2016. She moved to New York shortly after and has been involved with Eshel in various capacities ever since. Prior to working for Eshel Berina worked for the New York City Council as the Director of Communications and Economic Development in the East Bronx. Berina is inspired by the teachings of Abraham Joshua Heschel. Currently Berina lives in Crown Heights and has been enjoying exploring the Brooklyn young Jewish scene.


Francesco Di Maio
Director of Community Engagement

Francesco and his family are from a small island in the Mediterranean, just off the coast of Naples, Italy. While pursuing a BA in Russian and Mandarin and an MS in Education from the University of Pennsylvania, Francesco assisted a local synagogue in resettling Soviet Jews. Shortly thereafter he embarked on a career in international development, which brought him to nearly 25 countries. After obtaining an MBA with a specialization in Competitive Intelligence, Francesco continued his career in international business development, strategic marketing, fundraising, and event planning, winning the prestigious Min Award for his fashion and lifestyle magazine. In 2008, Francesco clenched gold and bronze medals at IGLA’s international swimming finals. As an Italki convert to Orthodox Judaism, Francesco is a core team leader of the Beis Community in New York.



Alyssa Rubin
JOIN for Justice Fellow

Alyssa Rubin is passionate about building inclusive, equitable, and joyous communities. She graduated from Northeastern University with a degree in International Affairs, where she was first introduced to community organizing through an internship at the Center for Nonviolent Action and Strategies in Belgrade, Serbia. After graduating, she ran community programming at District Hall, a nonprofit civic innovation center in Boston. Alyssa is currently a fellow with JOIN for Justice, a community organizing fellowship for young Jewish organizers.



Eliana Altholz
Social Work Intern

Eliana Dersovitz is a Social Worker from NYU, a member of the Eshel community since 2018. Eliana is trilingual; she speaks german, Hebrew and English. She grew up in Israel and Germany. Eliana runs our groups and assists with special projects and with all group leader in all states,. She also takes part in clinical work. Eliana graduated from Pace University with a bachelors in Applied Psychology,and a minor in Criminal Justice. She is currently pursuing her Masters at NYU Silver School of Social Work.
Contact Eliana at Eliana@eshelonline.org




Board Members

Adina Poupko

Adina Poupko is the Program Officer at The Natan Fund, a giving circle that supports innovative work in the Jewish community and in Israel. Prior to Natan, Adina was Director of Recruitment at Masa Israel Journey, overseeing national recruitment strategies and national partnerships. Before joining Masa, Adina was Associate Director of Student Life at Yeshiva University for three years, creating leadership development programs for students. Adina was born in Montreal and raised in both Montreal and Cincinnati. After receiving a B.A. in Political Science at Yeshiva University, she received an M.A. in Non-Profit Management and Public Policy at NYU’s Robert F. Wagner Graduate School of Public Service and a certificate in Experiential Jewish Education from Yeshiva University. Adina is a current fellow in the Ruskay Institute for Jewish Professional Leadership at UJA Federation of NY.


Dana Friedman

Dana Friedman comes to the Eshel board with a great deal of not-for-profit volunteer experience. Dana has been a leader in Business Network International, was Vice President of New York CyberQueers—a business networking group for New York area LGBT technology professionals— and was Vice President of the New York City chapter of the ICCA—Independent Computer Consultants Association. She served as a chapter advisor in Junior and Senior NCSY (Etz Chaim/NJ Region), as well as in Heritage of Pride—organizers of New York City’s Gay Pride March. With 20-plus years of technology consulting and web implementation experience, Dana assists Eshel by addressing a wide variety of technology, web, and social media challenges. Contact Dana at Dana@eshelonline.org.


Elaine Chapnik

Elaine Chapnik has been involved with organizing LGBT Orthodox communities since 1995 as a founding member of the New York City Orthodykes support group for Orthodox and previously Orthodox, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender women. Elaine sat on the LGBT Committee of the Jewish National Fund. Recently, she was on a national book tour with Miryam Kabakov as the author of the chapter on Jewish law and lesbianism in Keep Your Wives Away From Them: Orthodox Women, Unorthodox Desires. She is a graduate of the University of Michigan, where she received a B.A. in Philosophy and a Juris Doctorate. A member of the New York State Bar, she began her association with Eshel as a pro-bono lawyer giving advice on various legal issues before becoming a Board member. For the last two decades, she has worked in public health, and is currently working for New York City’s municipal hospital system, providing legal expertise on procurement and information technology contracts and managed care reimbursement.


Shlomo Ashkinazy

Shlomo Ashkinazy, LCSW has been recognized as a leader in the LGBT rights movement for more than 40 years. He was a founding member of the National Lesbian and Gay Task Force and a founding Board Member of the LGBT Community Center in NYC. The first openly gay MSW student in the country, he became a founder of The Hetrick Martin Institute, providing services for LGBTQ youth and their families. As its first Clinical Director he created the Harvey Milk School, a high school serving LGBT youth and served as its first Principal. He currently sits on the LGBT Advisory Panel to NYC Police Commissioner. Since becoming a Ba’al Tshuva (a returnee to Judaism) in 1979, he has worked to help Orthodox LGBT people reconcile their religious identities with their sexual orientation, and has also been active in educating the Orthodox community about this issue. He has been running a monthly discussion group for Orthodox Gay men since 1983.


Kenneth Wagner

Kenny Wagner has over 30 years of experience in management as a professional problem solver. He is a former executive of Bristol-Myers Squibb where he was engaged in a wide range of organizational change efforts around the world. Kenny is currently an independent consultant working with everything from top 10 global pharmaceutical companies, billion dollar plus companies in telecom, food service, and pharmaceutical research to start-ups in technology, finance, and fashion. He also works with local, national, and global not-for-profit organizations in the field of education, religion, inter-faith relations, and social service. Kenny brings a wealth of knowledge in building and scaling operations, and in fundraising. He recently joined the Eshel board and will be serving as head of its development team to help make sure Eshel has the resources it needs to fulfill our mission. He is a graduate of Yeshiva University, earned an MBA from Yale School of Management, a JD from Rutgers University School of Law, in addition to advanced study at MIT.


Suzi Fuld

Suzi Fuld has been an early childhood educator, special needs advocate, and communal volunteer for four decades. She believes that each of us, whether LGBT or straight, can help shape and propel Eshel’s mission forward.  To that end, Suzi has been instrumental in initiating parent programs such as the monthly phone support group, the parent-to-parent mentor program, and the annual parent retreat.   Suzi was honored to be invited to join the Eshel Board as the first straight member.   In that capacity she hopes to help affect change.  “I want to stand up for what’s right so that our children and grandchildren, whether they are straight or gay, will know they have a place in the Orthodox community.”